{"id":6707,"date":"2026-09-06T14:20:55","date_gmt":"2026-09-06T14:20:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/celebspaces.com\/?p=6707"},"modified":"2026-09-06T14:20:55","modified_gmt":"2026-09-06T14:20:55","slug":"my-parents-came-to-my-college-move-in-dressed-like-they-were-homeless-i-was-mortified-until-dad-said-it-was-on-purpose","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/celebspaces.com\/?p=6707","title":{"rendered":"My Parents Came to My College Move-in Dressed like They Were Homeless \u2013 I Was Mortified Until Dad Said It Was on Purpose"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I thought my parents had lost their minds when they arrived at my dorm in ripped clothes with garbage bags. Then my dad told me who they were really watching.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Dad&#8230; what are you wearing?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>He looked down at himself like nothing was wrong.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Clothes.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Don&#8217;t do that.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Do what?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Act like this is normal.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>My dad was standing in the middle of my college parking lot wearing ripped jeans, a faded T-shirt with a dark stain near the hem, and an old brown jacket I hadn&#8217;t seen him wear in years.<\/p>\n<p>My mom looked even worse.<\/p>\n<p>Her hair was messy. Her sweatshirt had holes near the cuffs.<\/p>\n<p>There was dirt smudged across one side of her face.<\/p>\n<p>And half my belongings were packed in black garbage bags. Actual garbage bags.<\/p>\n<p>I stared at both of them. &#8220;Did something happen?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Mom shrugged. &#8220;Long morning.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That made no sense.<\/p>\n<p>Then I looked past them. &#8220;Where&#8217;s Dad&#8217;s truck?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Parked behind them was my uncle&#8217;s ancient blue minivan.<\/p>\n<p>The thing had a dent in the side and one hubcap missing.<\/p>\n<p>Dad glanced at it. &#8220;This one still runs.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Why are we using Uncle Mike&#8217;s van?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;More room.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You own a truck.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Also true.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I narrowed my eyes.<\/p>\n<p>Something was going on.<\/p>\n<p>Before I could press harder, a brand-new white SUV pulled into the space beside us.<\/p>\n<p>I closed my eyes.<\/p>\n<p>Of course. Perfect timing. My new roommate, Chloe, stepped out.<\/p>\n<p>We&#8217;d been talking online for almost two months before move-in.<\/p>\n<p>She seemed nice. Funny. Outgoing.<\/p>\n<p>The kind of person who made conversation easily.<\/p>\n<p>We&#8217;d already joked about staying up too late, decorating the room, and getting through freshman year together.<\/p>\n<p>Now she walked toward us with her parents.<\/p>\n<p>She looked at me.<\/p>\n<p>Then at my dad. Then my mom. Then the garbage bags. Then the van.<\/p>\n<p>Her face changed. Only slightly. But I noticed.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Oh,&#8221; she said.<\/p>\n<p>Just that.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Oh.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I forced a smile. &#8220;Hey.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Her mother walked over next. &#8220;You must be Emma.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Yeah. Hi.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I introduced everyone. My dad held out his hand.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Tom.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Chloe&#8217;s father looked down at Dad&#8217;s hand for half a second before shaking it.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Greg.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>My face got hot.<\/p>\n<p>Mom smiled at Chloe. &#8220;I love your bedding. That&#8217;s a beautiful color.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Chloe glanced at her. &#8220;Thanks.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That was it.<\/p>\n<p>Dad bent down and picked up two garbage bags.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Guess we&#8217;d better get Emma&#8217;s stuff upstairs before they tow us.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Chloe looked toward the van.<\/p>\n<p>I wanted the asphalt to open and swallow me whole.<\/p>\n<p>Inside the dorm, my parents somehow made things worse.<\/p>\n<p>Not because they were rude.<\/p>\n<p>The opposite.<\/p>\n<p>They were painfully friendly.<\/p>\n<p>Dad held doors for strangers.<\/p>\n<p>Mom helped another girl&#8217;s grandmother carry a box.<\/p>\n<p>They offered Chloe&#8217;s parents bottled water.<\/p>\n<p>Dad volunteered to help move a shelf.<\/p>\n<p>Mom complimented Chloe&#8217;s lamp. They acted completely normal.<\/p>\n<p>They just looked like they&#8217;d spent the previous night under an overpass.<\/p>\n<p>Every time I looked at Chloe, she seemed quieter.<\/p>\n<p>Then two other girls from our floor came into the room.<\/p>\n<p>Chloe greeted them.<\/p>\n<p>A few minutes later, I heard her whisper, &#8220;I didn&#8217;t know.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The girls glanced in my direction.<\/p>\n<p>I frowned. &#8220;Didn&#8217;t know what?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Then Chloe&#8217;s mother asked my mom. &#8220;So, what do you do?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>My mother paused. That alone got my attention.<\/p>\n<p>She has had the same job for 14 years.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Oh,&#8221; Mom said, &#8220;a little bit of everything.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I nearly dropped the lamp in my hands.<\/p>\n<p>What?<\/p>\n<p>Her mother nodded slowly. &#8220;Oh.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>There was that word again.<\/p>\n<p>I looked at Dad.<\/p>\n<p>He was focused very hard on assembling a shelf. Too hard.<\/p>\n<p>I grabbed Mom&#8217;s sleeve. &#8220;Can you come into the hallway?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dad immediately stood. &#8220;I&#8217;ll come too.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No. Actually, yes. Both of you.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The second the door shut behind us, I whispered, &#8220;What is wrong with you?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Mom blinked. &#8220;What?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;This.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I pointed between them.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The clothes. The van. The bags. The weird answers.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dad said nothing.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Are you trying to embarrass me?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Then what are you doing?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>My parents looked at each other.<\/p>\n<p>That look made me even angrier. &#8220;See? That. You&#8217;ve been doing that all morning.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dad lowered his voice. &#8220;We did it on purpose.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I stared at him. &#8220;What?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The clothes. The van. All of it.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I blinked. Mom nodded.<\/p>\n<p>I actually laughed because I couldn&#8217;t process what I was hearing.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You deliberately dressed like this?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Yes.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You deliberately packed my stuff in trash bags?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Mom lifted a finger. &#8220;That part was my idea.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I stared at her. &#8220;Why?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dad glanced toward the dorm room door.<\/p>\n<p>Then he said, &#8220;Because I wanted to see how your roommate treated you.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I froze. &#8220;What?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>He leaned back against the wall. &#8220;Just listen before you get mad.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I&#8217;m already mad.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Fair.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Why would you test Chloe? You don&#8217;t know her.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Then this is insane.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Possibly.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That answer slowed me down.<\/p>\n<p>Dad wasn&#8217;t acting smug.<\/p>\n<p>He looked serious. &#8220;I noticed some things before today.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;What things?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>He hesitated.<\/p>\n<p>Then said, &#8220;Questions.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;What questions?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Mom answered. &#8220;About us.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I frowned. &#8220;Everyone asks about people&#8217;s parents.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I know,&#8221; Dad said. &#8220;But hers kept circling back to money.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>My stomach tightened. I didn&#8217;t say anything.<\/p>\n<p>Dad continued. &#8220;You mentioned she asked whether your car was yours.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I remembered. &#8220;And whether we bought it for you.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I looked away.<\/p>\n<p>Mom said, &#8220;She asked about the house in your vacation photos.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It&#8217;s Uncle Mike&#8217;s place.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Right.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dad nodded. &#8220;And after you told her that, she asked if our family owned other property.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I remembered that too. At the time, I&#8217;d laughed.<\/p>\n<p>Chloe had a curious personality.<\/p>\n<p>At least, that was how I&#8217;d interpreted it.<\/p>\n<p>Dad continued. &#8220;She asked what I did.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;So?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Then she looked up the business.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>My head snapped toward him. &#8220;What?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You told me she knew the store name.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I had. I&#8217;d forgotten.<\/p>\n<p>Mom added, &#8220;Then she asked whether your tuition was covered.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I crossed my arms. &#8220;She wasn&#8217;t demanding my bank statements.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No,&#8221; Dad said. &#8220;And I didn&#8217;t say she was a bad person.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Then why do all this?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>He looked toward my room. &#8220;Because every time we brought it up, you said we were imagining things.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I was getting more irritated. &#8220;So instead of talking to me, you decided to run some weird social experiment?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;We did talk to you.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;And I disagreed.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Exactly.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I stared at him.<\/p>\n<p>Dad sighed.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Emma, when someone tells you what they think about a person, it&#8217;s easy to dismiss it. I wanted you to watch for yourself.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That still felt manipulative.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Why do you care this much?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>His face changed. Mom looked at him.<\/p>\n<p>Then Dad said, &#8220;Because I had a friend like that once.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I stopped. &#8220;When?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;College.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>He rubbed his jaw. &#8220;His name was Darren.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;d heard the name once or twice. Dad rarely talked about him.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;We were roommates sophomore year. Best friends, I thought.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>He looked down the hallway.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;My dad had just sold part of his business. Darren found out my family had money.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;What happened?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Nothing dramatic at first.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dad gave a humorless laugh.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;That&#8217;s why I didn&#8217;t notice.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Darren started asking Dad to cover dinner.<\/p>\n<p>Then rent. Then trips. Then loans. Then money for a business idea.<\/p>\n<p>Every request was framed as something friends did for each other.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;How much did you give him?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dad didn&#8217;t answer.<\/p>\n<p>Mom did. &#8220;Almost $20,000.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>My eyes widened.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;What?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;And this was decades ago,&#8221; she added.<\/p>\n<p>I stared at Dad. &#8220;What happened?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;He disappeared after graduation owing me most of it.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;He never paid you back?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dad&#8217;s face tightened.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I later found out he&#8217;d told people I was useful because my family had money.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That shut me up.<\/p>\n<p>Dad looked toward my room.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;So when you kept mentioning a roommate asking what we owned, I noticed.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I exhaled. &#8220;Chloe is not Darren.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I know.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You&#8217;ve known her for ten minutes.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I know.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Then this is unfair.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Maybe.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That surprised me.<\/p>\n<p>Dad shrugged. &#8220;I&#8217;m not asking you to hate her.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Then what are you asking?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Pay attention.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That was it.<\/p>\n<p>Not &#8220;dump her.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Not &#8220;I told you so.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Just pay attention.<\/p>\n<p>Mom said quietly, &#8220;People sometimes reveal themselves when they think there&#8217;s nothing to gain from impressing someone.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I looked through the small window in the dorm door.<\/p>\n<p>Chloe was talking to two girls.<\/p>\n<p>All three glanced toward the hallway.<\/p>\n<p>Then quickly looked away.<\/p>\n<p>My stomach tightened. &#8220;Did anything happen while I was getting my key?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Mom hesitated. &#8220;She asked whether you were on financial aid.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I stared at her. &#8220;She asked you that?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Yes.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;What did you say?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;That your finances were your business.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;And then?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;She asked if you had enough money for the meal plan.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I closed my eyes.<\/p>\n<p>Dad added:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Her dad mentioned there were campus jobs if you needed extra money.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I looked at him. &#8220;Maybe he was trying to help.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;He probably was.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I frowned. &#8220;You&#8217;re defending him now?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I&#8217;m trying not to become the thing I&#8217;m warning you about.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That shut me up again.<\/p>\n<p>We went back inside.<\/p>\n<p>And now I was watching.<\/p>\n<p>Really watching.<\/p>\n<p>Chloe asked whether I&#8217;d brought a mini fridge.<\/p>\n<p>I said no.<\/p>\n<p>She glanced at hers.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Maybe we should each keep our own food separate.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I stared at her.<\/p>\n<p>Two weeks earlier, she&#8217;d texted:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;We can share EVERYTHING. It&#8217;ll be like having a sister.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I said nothing.<\/p>\n<p>Later, one of the girls from our floor asked if we were all going out to eat.<\/p>\n<p>Before I could answer, Chloe said:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I think Emma&#8217;s eating with her parents.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The girl shrugged. &#8220;She can still come.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Chloe looked at me. &#8220;Oh. I just assumed.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Assumed what?<\/p>\n<p>That I couldn&#8217;t afford dinner?<\/p>\n<p>That my parents wouldn&#8217;t let me?<\/p>\n<p>That I&#8217;d embarrass her?<\/p>\n<p>For the first time, Dad&#8217;s ridiculous plan stopped feeling completely ridiculous.<\/p>\n<p>An hour later, my parents were ready to leave.<\/p>\n<p>Mom hugged me.<\/p>\n<p>Dad squeezed my shoulder. &#8220;I&#8217;ll call tonight.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I whispered, &#8220;Please tell me you brought normal clothes.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>He smiled. &#8220;In the van.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I rolled my eyes.<\/p>\n<p>Then Mom hugged Chloe. &#8220;It was lovely meeting you.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Chloe gave her a stiff half hug. &#8220;Yeah. You too.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dad shook Greg&#8217;s hand. This time, Greg didn&#8217;t hesitate.<\/p>\n<p>That mattered too.<\/p>\n<p>As soon as my parents left, Chloe shut the door.<\/p>\n<p>Then she turned to me. &#8220;You didn&#8217;t tell me.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>My stomach tightened. &#8220;Tell you what?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She gestured toward the hallway. &#8220;About your parents.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;What about them?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She looked uncomfortable.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Nothing.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No. You said I didn&#8217;t tell you something.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She sat down. &#8220;I just thought&#8230;&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;What?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;From your pictures, I thought your family was kind of&#8230;&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She stopped.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Kind of what?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Well-off.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>There it was.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Why does that matter?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It doesn&#8217;t.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Then why have you acted weird all day?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Her face tightened. &#8220;I haven&#8217;t.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You have.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She crossed her arms. &#8220;So have you.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;My parents showed up looking like extras from a disaster movie. I have a reason.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She almost smiled.<\/p>\n<p>Then she said, &#8220;I just don&#8217;t like feeling misled.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That made me laugh. &#8220;Who misled you?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You made it sound like that car was yours.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It is.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She blinked. &#8220;What?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The car in my pictures. It&#8217;s mine.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Her expression changed. &#8220;And my parents aren&#8217;t poor.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Silence.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;My dad owns three businesses. My mom is an accountant.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Chloe stared at me. &#8220;Wait. Seriously?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Seriously.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;And the van?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;My uncle&#8217;s.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The garbage bags?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I looked at them. &#8220;Apparently my mother&#8217;s commitment to performance art.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Chloe laughed. Not a polite laugh. A relieved one. That was what got me.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Oh my God,&#8221; she said. &#8220;You scared me.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I went still. &#8220;Why?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She immediately realized what she&#8217;d said. &#8220;I didn&#8217;t mean it like that.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Like what?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She looked away.<\/p>\n<p>I stepped closer. &#8220;Why would my parents being poor scare you?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It wouldn&#8217;t.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Then what were you scared of?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She rubbed her palms against her jeans. &#8220;I just didn&#8217;t want things to get awkward.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;With what?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Money.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I almost laughed. &#8220;You&#8217;ve spent two months asking me about money.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Because I thought we had similar backgrounds.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;And if we didn&#8217;t?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It&#8217;s just easier.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;What&#8217;s easier?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;When people can afford the same things.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I stared at her. She kept going.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;My brother had a roommate who couldn&#8217;t afford anything. My brother always felt guilty. Restaurants, trips, stuff like that.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;So the second you thought my parents didn&#8217;t have money, you decided I&#8217;d become a burden?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Then why did our shared fridge suddenly become your fridge?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Her face went red. &#8220;That&#8217;s not fair.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It&#8217;s exactly what happened.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She opened her mouth.<\/p>\n<p>Then closed it.<\/p>\n<p>For the first time, Chloe looked genuinely ashamed.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Okay.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I wasn&#8217;t expecting that.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Okay what?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You&#8217;re right.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I stared at her.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I was being awful.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>My anger lost some momentum.<\/p>\n<p>Not all. But some.<\/p>\n<p>She looked down. &#8220;My mom has always warned us about people taking advantage.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I looked around our completely ordinary dorm room.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Are you secretly a billionaire?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That made her laugh despite herself.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Then maybe relax.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I know.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She sighed.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;My parents have money. Enough that Mom gets weird about it.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That sounded painfully familiar. My dad feared people pretending to like me because we had money.<\/p>\n<p>Chloe&#8217;s family feared people with less money would become a burden.<\/p>\n<p>Apparently both families had sent daughters to college expecting financial predators.<\/p>\n<p>Great.<\/p>\n<p>Then I said, &#8220;For the record, my parents did this on purpose.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Her eyes widened. &#8220;What?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I told her. 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